In this episode, Brett talks about just letting things go in order to feel better and move on.
Hello Brett Campbell here, and today I want to talk about a topic that not a lot of people would even enter into the woods to even start thinking about, and it’s the topic of what are the things in your life that you’re currently holding onto, right? The things that that you’re currently holding onto that are not serving you. The things that are stopping you from achieving what you want to achieve. The things that are stopping you from achieving your life mission or living your life’s purpose okay.
I want to share with you a quick story. It’s quite funny actually, but the message in itself is all about what are you currently doing that you must, you must right now after watching this video and understanding what I’m about to say, what is it that you are going to just cut right now? You’re going to draw a line on the sand. You’re going to go “You know what right from now from this second moving forward I’m no longer going to do X.” Share with you this quick story, it’s very funny.
As a kid I was about 8 years old at this stage and I was living at home with my parents of course and me and my mother and I can’t even remember what this was about but we were having a little bit of an argument, probably over nothing. You know what 8 year old kids are like, you were one yourself. We’re having an argument and I decide, “You know what? That’s it, I’m moving out.” Literally, I’m moving out, I’ve had enough. I didn’t know where I was going to go and live but at that exact second I was like, “I know right now that I’m moving out.”
I went into my bedroom. I got one of our bags out of our cupboard. It was an old rainbow, like a hessian type of bag, you know those old school carry bags with the big zip. It was about yay big and I emptied every drawer so my drawer of clothes threw them in there, pulled all my other things out of my shelf, put them into this bag. This bag was almost as big as me. At that time I was waiting for my mum to come into the room and say, “Oh don’t worry about it. I’m sorry.” But she didn’t do that. She didn’t do that so I grabbed the bag and I walked out the front door, dragging this bag because it was that big.
All of a sudden I was like, “Where am I going to go? What am I going to do?” I started going through all the people I know, my friends. Would their mum come pick me up because obviously I couldn’t drive and I couldn’t ride my little bike, my BMX bike with this massive bag so I was stuck with ideas but as someone who is always been quite driven and always tries to find solution in the problem I went to it. I grabbed my bag, dragged it outside. At that stage we were living on a main highway so there was a main highway in front of our house. There was a brick wall where we were and then it dropped down and there was the main highway which was literally 3 meters away from our front fence.
I carried on and I sat there and it was about 3pm in the afternoon so the sun was shining, beautiful day so I said, “Okay, I’ve got time to think about this.” I sat down and I was leaning on my bag and every so often I would look back and I would see in the corner of the window the curtain moving and it was my mum checking it out. I was like, “Gee, when are you going to come out here?” All right, I was waiting for her to apologize to me. Stubborn as I was I decided I’m going to stay there. What I might do is start hitchhiking. I’m going to put my thumb out. Eight year old kid with a bag, good idea, not so don’t do that. I thought I’m not going to do that because I don’t want to be picked up by a stranger, I would hate for that to happen.
I was sitting there and I started counting cars and I was playing games with cars as they were going past, different colours and all of this stuff basically just to fill my mind. I was just filling my mind because I didn’t want to come back to the reality of this current situation. I was ready to move out, I was leaving my family. Started to get a little bit darker, sun coming down and at that time I could smell food coming out of the house and mum started cooking tea. I was like, “Oh my gosh I want some of this. I’m hungry. I’ve got nowhere else to go. What am I going to do?” What I did, sun went right down, started getting cold. I put on a jumper, opened my bag, put on a jumper. I was, “I’m staying stubborn here. I’m not going back home because it’s her fault. It’s her fault.”
Low and behold mum opened up the window, she didn’t say a word and I was like, “Can you bring me some tea?” “No, no, not bringing you any tea.” Shut the window back up and I was like, “Okay.” Literally for the last hour I’d been sitting there going, “You know what, I just need to muster the courage up to drag my bag back inside, throw it in my room and then go and have some dinner.” That’s what I did. I dragged the bag, put the bag in the room, went up to the dinner table. Mum goes, “What you doing? What do you think you’re doing?” I’m like, “I’m having dinner. Of course I’m not going to move anywhere, I’m only 8 years old.” But this is where it took a turn for the worst. My mother says, “Before you’re eating you’re going back into that bedroom, you’re taking all those clothes out of that bag and you’re going to fold them up neatly and put them in the drawers.”
Aargh so what I had done, think about this. Not only had I sat outside for the last 3 hours, I had made the entire situation worse than what it was because my clothes weren’t even folded in my drawers, I had just thrown them in there. As a kid I didn’t want to fold my clothes up but I then had to go fold them all, put them back in which took another half an hour before I even got to have dinner. I share that story with you because maybe you’re not 8 years old right now, okay, you’re not 8 years old but we still have those thought processes. We still run patterns that we have created from childhood.
What is that you’re doing right now in your life? Maybe it’s a relationship. Maybe it’s your job. Whatever it is, what are you holding yourself hostage to right now? What are you holding yourself hostage to? What are you actually making worse? When you do finally decide to take that next step or you do finally decide to go, “You know what, this is the time. From now on I’m going to be carrying on doing X,Y,Z.” What is it that you’re making worse? The longer you leave it the worse it’s going to be, okay. I really encourage you, I want you to think about that and go, “Mm-hmm, what right now would I like to change and I have the power to change.”
I had the power to walk inside at any moment. I had the power to not even walk out of the house. I could’ve just said, “I’m sorry mum. What would you like me to do to make this better?” Obviously being 8 years old I had no concept of that thought process but now that we’re adults, you’re an adult, you’re watching this, what is it that you could do, all right? What is it that you could say? What is your next step to help you break through something that is holding you back from achieving a fulfilled life?
I’m Brett Campbell, until next time go out there, live with intention, love with passion and never give up on your dreams.